Many church communities prize the opinions of older people because they are older.
People assume that just because a person is older, therefore that person is wiser, has more to share, and therefore no one has any opinion worth considering in contrast.
Unfortunately, such an estimation has no value. Being older does not guarantee that a person is wiser, no more than sitting in a garage makes a man a car, or having children ensures maturity.
Let us first remember that for God, a day is a thousand years, and a thousand years is but a day (Psalm 90: 4)
Jesus Christ is the Alpha and Omega, and He is revealed to us in His Word, and we know Him through His death and resurrection:
"10For this is the covenant that I will make with the house of Israel after those days, saith the Lord; I will put my laws into their mind, and write them in their hearts: and I will be to them a God, and they shall be to me a people:
Wisdom is not based on how old we are, or even how much experience we have, but rather Wisdom is based on our relationship with God through Jesus Christ.
Solomon was just a boy when he asked God for Wisdom, and God ended up granting him so much more:
"6And Solomon said, Thou hast shewed unto thy servant David my father great mercy, according as he walked before thee in truth, and in righteousness, and in uprightness of heart with thee; and thou hast kept for him this great kindness, that thou hast given him a son to sit on his throne, as it is this day. 7And now, O LORD my God, thou hast made thy servant king instead of David my father: and I am but a little child: I know not how to go out or come in. 8And thy servant is in the midst of thy people which thou hast chosen, a great people, that cannot be numbered nor counted for multitude. 9Give therefore thy servant an understanding heart to judge thy people, that I may discern between good and bad: for who is able to judge this thy so great a people?" (1 Kings 3: 6-10)
I believe that many people are turned off to attending church because of a diligent cohort of older individuals who have a love of preeminence (much like Diotrephes in the Apostle John's Third Epistle)
They do not know how much God loves them, and they esteem their standing before God and in their church community based on their years of attendance and their activities within that community.
Age and experience do not impart wisdom. God does, and Jesus Christ is made through to us first of all Wisdom, as well as righteousness, sanctification, and redemption (1 Corinthians 1: 30)
John in the His First epistle outlines the differences among children, young men, and fathers:
"12I write unto you, little children, because your sins are forgiven you for his name's sake. 13I write unto you, fathers, because ye have known him that is from the beginning. I write unto you, young men, because ye have overcome the wicked one. I write unto you, little children, because ye have known the Father. 14I have written unto you, fathers, because ye have known him that is from the beginning. I have written unto you, young men, because ye are strong, and the word of God abideth in you, and ye have overcome the wicked one." (1 John 2: 12-14)
Little children know that their sins are forgiven.
Jesus' death on the Cross assured more for us than our sins forgiven. Just as the New Covenant ensures that He will be our god and will cause us to know Him, we can also rest and believe that He has overcome every enemy in our lives, that His word dwells in us ("Christ in you, the hope of glory Colossians 1: 27), but that He has defeated every enemy in our lives.
Yet to be a father, to be an elder, that means that You see Jesus as everything, as Him who has been from the beginning:
John had this revelation:
"9I John, who also am your brother, and companion in tribulation, and in the kingdom and patience of Jesus Christ, was in the isle that is called Patmos, for the word of God, and for the testimony of Jesus Christ. 10I was in the Spirit on the Lord's day, and heard behind me a great voice, as of a trumpet, 11Saying, I am Alpha and Omega, the first and the last: and, What thou seest, write in a book, and send it unto the seven churches which are in Asia; unto Ephesus, and unto Smyrna, and unto Pergamos, and unto Thyatira, and unto Sardis, and unto Philadelphia, and unto Laodicea." (Revelation 1: 9-11)
In the Beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God" (John 1: 1)
Everything is and exists because of Jesus!
A true elder sees Jesus in all things. A child who sees Him who is from the beginning can be a father just as much as an old man can still be a child if he only knows Jesus as He who died for His sins.
For this reason, Paul exhorted his disciple Timothy:
"Let no man despise thy youth; but be thou an example of the believers, in word, in conversation, in charity, in spirit, in faith, in purity." (1 Timothy 4: 12)
Today, church leaders need to honor all members, yet they must cease pandering to certain people just because they are older. Young pastors should not fear to exhort elders just because they are older, nor should they dismiss their own revelations just because they do not have as much experience as other people.
When preeminence based on age and experience is reduced, when Jesus is fully magnified in our churches once again, people will run to church, not away, no longer fearing the reproach of older people who deem themselves better just because they have been going to church longer than others or have done more things in church or in their lives.